“Once this bubble of self-deception is burst and the mask that shielded her and others from what she wished to ignore is lifted, it is difficult for the woman to return to her life as it was. It has been… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share Image
“Consider these traditional theories of domestic abuse: - Learned helplessness suggest that abused women learn to become helpless under abusive conditions; they are powerless to extricate themselves from such relationships and/or unable to make adaptive choices - The cycle of violence describes a pattern that includes a contrition or honeymoon phase. The abusive husband becomes contrite and apologetic after a… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share
“When a woman is convinced that she can stop the violence in her marriage, her stubborn determination feeds her sense of failure each time… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share Image
“Canadian researcher Donald Dutton . . has written that marital work with a man who has a history of relationship violence may be a “conflict-generator” and that individual work . . should come first for both husband and wife. … Marital therapy does not provide the battered woman the kind of safety she needs for rebuilding her strength and finding… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share
“As she breaks the silence, the upscale abused wife begins to feel affirmed and validated. The rationalizations she once relied on to sustain her within the marriage and to maintain the marital relationship begin to break down. Soon they become useless and obsolete. She slowly rejects them as she confronts the cognitive dissonance, the contradiction between her own knowledge and… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share
“Once this bubble of self-deception is burst and the mask that shielded her and others from what she wished to ignore is lifted, it… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share Image
“Julia's fears of coming forward with the violence were based on anticipated as well as actual responses from friends and acquaintances. I also recognized… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share Image
“When others witness or comment on abusive behaviors, the little voice that the upscale abused wife once heard inside her and ignored or muffled… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share Image
“But if he is angry at the world for doing him harm, why does he take it out on his loving partner? Couldn’t he… — Susan Weitzman Copy Share Image
