It's hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing 'right,' which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will actually disappear. — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
Remember to be kind. Remember to be loving. Remember to feel all your feelings and to take care of yourself. But most of all,… — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
“Frequently, when I suggest to people that they detach from a person or problem, they recoil in horror. “Oh, no!” they say. “I could never do that. I love him, or her, too much. I care too much to do that. This problem or person is too important to me. I have to stay attached!” My answer to that is,… — Melody Beattie Copy Share
Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction. — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
“Once they have been affected---once "it" sets in---codependency takes on a life of its own. It is similar to catching pneumonia or picking up a destructive habit. Once you've got it, you've got it. If you want to get rid of it, YOU have to do something to make it go away. It doesn't matter whose fault it is. Your… — Melody Beattie Copy Share
Prayer changes things. Prayer changes us. Prayer changes life. Sometimes an event has been manifested that needs to be stopped, midair. Don't pray just… — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage. — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
“We don’t have to be so afraid of people. They are just people like us.” — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
“I want to thank each person who has the courage to push through and past the set of coping behaviors we’ve come to label as codependency—who learn what it means to take care of themselves. “Nobody taught me how to take care of myself,” a fifty-year-old woman told me recently. “I didn’t have enough money to go to therapy, but… — Melody Beattie Copy Share
Acceptance is the magic that makes change possible. It is not forever, it is for the present moment — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs. — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
