Children learn how to make good decisions by making decisions, not by following directions. — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Children, after all, are not just adults-in-the-making. They are people whose current needs and rights and experiences must be taken seriously. — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Unconditional parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
If a child is off-task...mayb e the problem is not the child...maybe it's the task. — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
If children feel safe, they can take risks, ask questions, make mistakes, learn to trust, share their feelings, and grow. — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
How we feel about our kids isn't as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Sometimes we have to put our foot down, ... but before we deliberately make children unhappy in order to get them to… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Most of us would protest that of course we love our children without any strings attached. But what counts is how things… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
You have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love them. You don't… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
“The more we want our children to be (1) lifelong learners, genuinely excited about words and numbers and ideas, (2) avoid sticking… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
“So what, exactly, is the positive reinforcement that’s being suspended when a child is given a time-out? Sometimes he’s doing something fun… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Some who support [more] coercive strategies assume that children will run wild if they are not controlled. However, the children for whom… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
“It’s been said that the personal is political, and there’s no doubt that parenting is intensely personal. To argue against traditional ways… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
“In my experience, most parents sincerely want their children to be assertive, independent thinkers who are unafraid to stand their ground .… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
“Even before i had children, I knew that being a parent was going to be challenging as well as rewarding. But I… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
“Many of our elected officials have virtually handed the keys to our schools over to corporate interests. Presidential commissions on education are commonly chaired… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
“a grade can be regarded only as an inadequate report of an inaccurate judgment by a biased and variable judge of the extent to… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
In some suburban schools, the curriculum is chock-full of rigorous A.P. courses and the parking lot glitters with pricey SUVs, but one doesn't have… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Standardized testing has swelled and mutated, like a creature in one of those old horror movies, to the point that it now threatens to… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
If a child is off-task...mayb e the problem is not the child...maybe it's the task. — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
If unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn't necessary. If they're absent, praise won't help. — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Most of us would protest that of course we love our children without any strings attached. But what counts is how things look from… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
What can we surmise about the likelihood of someone's being caring and generous, loving and helpful, just from knowing that they are a believer?… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
When was the last time you spent the entire day with only 42 year olds? — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Punishment and reward proceed from basically the same psychological model, one that conceives of motivation as nothing more than the manipulation of behavior. — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Each time I visit such a classroom, where the teacher is more interested in creating a democratic community than in maintaining her position of… — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
Educators remind us that what counts in a classroom is not what the teacher teaches; it’s what the learner learns. — Alfie Kohn Copy Share Image
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