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“Why are you being so nice to me?' I asked her. 'You know,' she said, 'when you say stuff like that I just want to slap you.' 'What?' 'You heard me.' She picked up her beer and took a swallow, still watching me. Then she said, 'Colie, you should never be surprised when people treat you with…” quote by Sarah Dessen
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““Why are you being so nice to me?' I asked her. 'You know,' she said, 'when you say stuff like that I just want to slap you.' 'What?' 'You heard me.' She picked up her beer and took a swallow, still watching me. Then she said, 'Colie, you should never be surprised when people treat you with respect. You should expect it.' I shook my head. 'You don’t know-' I began. But, as usual, she didn’t let me finish. 'Yes,' she said simply. 'I do know. I’ve watched you, Colie. You walk around like a dog waiting to be kicked, and when someone does, you pout and cry like you didn’t deserve it.' 'No one deserves to be kicked,' I said. 'I disagree,' she said flatly. 'You do if you don’t think you’re worth any better.””

Sarah Dessen

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This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Self‑worth is shaped by how we accept respect and reject self‑defeating expectations.

In simple terms: Self‑worth depends on accepting respect and rejecting low expectations.

Key Takeaway

Demand respect and recognize your value.

Themes

self‑esteem boundaries assertiveness

Mood

empowering introspective

Type

motivational philosophical

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • workplace
  • friendships
  • family gatherings

Key Concepts

personal value social dynamics psychology

Questions to Reflect On

  • What expectations do you hold about how you should be treated?
  • How can you assert your worth without feeling guilty?
A Different Perspective

Respect can be misinterpreted or withheld by others.

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