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We are wont to condemn self-love; but what we really mean…

“We are wont to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loving others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.” quote by Paul Valery
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“We are wont to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loving others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.”

Paul Valery

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Self‑love is often misinterpreted; the real issue is a blend of selfishness and self‑hate that blocks love for others and self‑loss.

In simple terms: True self‑love differs from selfishness mixed with self‑hate.

Key Takeaway

Cultivate genuine self‑acceptance.

Themes

self‑esteem psychology relationships

Mood

thoughtful encouraging

Type

philosophical self‑help

When to use this quote

  • therapy sessions
  • personal development workshops
  • relationship counseling

Key Concepts

philosophy ethics

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you tell if self‑love is healthy?
  • What habits foster authentic self‑acceptance?
A Different Perspective

Distinguishing healthy self‑care from narcissism is challenging.

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