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“without any assistance or guidance from you i have loved you assiduously for 8 months 2 wks & a day i have been stood up four times i've left 7 packages on yr doorstep forty poems 2 plants & 3 handmade notecards i left town so i cd send to you have been no help to me on my job you call at 3:00 in…” quote by Ntozake Shange
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““without any assistance or guidance from you i have loved you assiduously for 8 months 2 wks & a day i have been stood up four times i've left 7 packages on yr doorstep forty poems 2 plants & 3 handmade notecards i left town so i cd send to you have been no help to me on my job you call at 3:00 in the mornin on weekdays so i cd drive 27 1/2 miles cross the bay before i go to work charmin charmin but you are of no assistance i want you to know this waz an experiment to see how selifsh i cd be if i wd really carry on to snare a possible lover if i waz capable of debasin my self for the love of another if i cd stand not being wanted when i wanted to be wanted & i cannot so with no further assistance & no guidance from you i am endin this affair this note is attached to a plant i've been waterin since the day i met you you may water it yr damn self””

Ntozake Shange

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The writer expresses frustration over unreciprocated effort and lack of support, questioning self‑interest and the value of continuing a one‑sided relationship.

In simple terms: Feeling abandoned after giving much without return.

Key Takeaway

Recognize when effort is unreciprocated and consider moving on.

Themes

unrequited love self‑worth effort boundaries

Mood

sad reflective

Type

personal emotional

When to use this quote

  • relationship breakup
  • personal reflection
  • setting limits

Key Concepts

emotional labor dependence self‑sacrifice

Questions to Reflect On

  • Do you truly need external validation?
  • How can you balance giving with self‑care?
A Different Perspective

The note may romanticize suffering, overlooking healthier alternatives.

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