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M. Vinteuil...carried politeness and consideration for…

“M. Vinteuil...carried politeness and consideration for others to such scrupulous lengths, always putting himself in their place, that he was afraid of boring them, or of appearing egotistical, if he carried out or even allowed them to suspect what were his own desires. On the day when my parents…” quote by Marcel Proust
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““M. Vinteuil...carried politeness and consideration for others to such scrupulous lengths, always putting himself in their place, that he was afraid of boring them, or of appearing egotistical, if he carried out or even allowed them to suspect what were his own desires. On the day when my parents had gone to pay him a visit, I had accompanied them, but they had allowed me to remain outside, and as M. Vinteuil's house, Montjouvain, stood at the foot of a bushy hillock where I went to hide, I had found myself on a level with his drawing-room, upstairs, and only a few feet away from its window. When the servant came in to tell him that my parents had arrived, I had seen M. Vinteuil hurriedly place a sheet of music in a prominent position on the piano. But as soon as they entered the room he had snatched it away and put it in a corner. He was afraid, no doubt, of letting them suppose that he was glad to see them only because it gave him a chance of playing them some of his compositions. And every time that my mother, in the course of her visit, had returned to the subject he had hurriedly protested: 'I can't think who put that on the piano; it's not the proper place for it at all,' and had turned the conversation aside to other topics, precisely because they were of less interest to himself.””

Marcel Proust

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

A man suppresses his own desires to avoid appearing selfish, hiding his true feelings behind excessive politeness.

In simple terms: He hides his wishes to seem selfless.

Key Takeaway

Recognize and express authentic needs.

Themes

self‑deception politeness social anxiety authenticity

Mood

reflective somber

Type

literary psychological

When to use this quote

  • family visits
  • social gatherings
  • artistic ambition
  • personal relationships

Key Concepts

ego suppression self‑presentation interpersonal dynamics

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do you balance courtesy with honesty?
  • When does politeness become self‑sabotage?
A Different Perspective

His fear of judgment may prevent genuine connections.

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