Whoever is admitted or sought for, in company, upon any…
“Whoever is admitted or sought for, in company, upon any other account than that of his merit and manners, is never respected there, but only made use of. We will have such-a-one, for he sings prettily; we will invite such-a-one to a ball, for he dances well; we will have such-a-one at supper, for he is always joking and laughing; we will ask another because he plays deep at all games, or because he can drink a great deal. These are all vilifying distinctions, mortifying preferences, and exclude all ideas of esteem and regard. Whoever is had (as it is called) in company for the sake of any one thing singly, is singly that thing, and will never be considered in any other light; consequently never respected, let his merits be what they will.”
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
The passage warns that valuing people solely for superficial traits leads to exploitation and loss of genuine respect.
In simple terms: Treating people only for their talents makes them objects, not respected individuals.
Key Takeaway
Value people for character, not just abilities.
Themes
respect
authenticity
social dynamics
merit
exploitation
Mood
reflective
critical
serious
Type
ethical
social
philosophical
When to use this quote
- workplace hiring
- social invitations
- friendship circles
- team building
- leadership training
Key Concepts
objectification
social hierarchy
esteem
relationships
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you recognize when you’re using someone?
- What steps can you take to appreciate deeper qualities?
A Different Perspective
People may resist changing ingrained social preferences.