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“Adulthood isn't an award they'll give you for being a good child. You can waste years, trying to get someone to give that respect to you, as though it were a sort of promotion or raise in pay. If only you do enough, if only you are good enough. No. You have to just take it. Give it to yourself, I…” quote by Lois McMaster Bujold
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“Adulthood isn't an award they'll give you for being a good child. You can waste years, trying to get someone to give that respect to you, as though it were a sort of promotion or raise in pay. If only you do enough, if only you are good enough. No. You have to just take it. Give it to yourself, I suppose. Say, I'm sorry you feel like that and walk away. But that's hard”

Lois McMaster Bujold

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Adult life requires self‑respect and personal validation rather than external approval.

In simple terms: Respect yourself, not others.

Key Takeaway

Earn self‑respect internally.

Themes

self‑worth adulthood validation

Mood

reflective determined

Type

advice motivational

When to use this quote

  • career advancement
  • relationship conflicts
  • personal setbacks
  • self‑esteem building

Key Concepts

personal growth self‑acceptance boundary setting

Questions to Reflect On

  • What internal standards guide your self‑respect?
  • How can you stop seeking approval from others?
A Different Perspective

External validation is often unreliable and can hinder authentic growth.

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