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“If it is perfectly acceptable for a widow to disfigure herself or commit suicide to save face for her husband's family, why should a mother not be moved to extreme action by the loss of a child or children? We are their caretakers. We love them. We nurse them when they are sick. . . But no woman…” quote by Lisa See
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“If it is perfectly acceptable for a widow to disfigure herself or commit suicide to save face for her husband's family, why should a mother not be moved to extreme action by the loss of a child or children? We are their caretakers. We love them. We nurse them when they are sick. . . But no woman should live longer than her children. It is against the law of nature. If she does, why wouldn't she wish to leap from a cliff, hang from a branch, or swallow lye?”

Lisa See

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The quote argues that a mother’s grief over losing a child is a natural, extreme response, comparable to a widow’s drastic actions to preserve honor.

In simple terms: Mothers may feel extreme grief like widows.

Key Takeaway

Acknowledge and support grieving mothers.

Themes

grief family cultural norms maternal love death

Mood

sad reflective

Type

ethical emotional

When to use this quote

  • counseling sessions
  • support groups
  • family discussions
  • cultural education

Key Concepts

psychology social expectations ethical dilemmas

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can societies better support grieving mothers?
  • What alternatives exist to extreme actions?
A Different Perspective

Cultural expectations may not justify self-harm; support is essential.

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