We will not quarrel for the greater share of blame annexed…
““We will not quarrel for the greater share of blame annexed to that evening,” said Elizabeth. “The conduct of neither, if strictly examined, will be irreproachable; but since then, we have both, I hope, improved in civility.” I cannot be so easily reconciled to myself. The recollection of what I then said, of my conduct, my manners, my expressions during the whole of it, is now, and has been many months, inexpressibly painful to me. Your reproof, so well applied, I shall never forget: ’had you behaved in a more gentlemanlike manner.’ Those were your words. You know not, you can scarcely conceive, how they have tortured me;–though it was some time, I confess, before I was reasonable enough to allow their justice.””
About This Quote
This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.
Elizabeth reflects on past civility, feeling pain from past criticism, and hopes for improved manners.
In simple terms: Reflecting on past behavior can cause pain but also growth.
Key Takeaway
Learn from criticism to improve.
Themes
self‑reflection
etiquette
growth
Mood
introspective
thoughtful
Type
Recollection Said:0
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Reconciled Recollection:0
Elizabeth Conduct:0
Improved Civility:0
When to use this quote
- conflict resolution
- self‑improvement
- writing workshops
Key Concepts
personal development
social norms
emotional healing
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you handle criticism?
- What does civility mean to you?
A Different Perspective
May not apply to all cultures.