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―When you kick out for yourself, Stephen―as I daresay you…

“―When you kick out for yourself, Stephen―as I daresay you will one of these days―rememer, whatever you do, to mix with gentlemen. When I was a young fellow I tell you I enjoyed myself. I mixed with fine decent fellows. Everyone of us could lo something. One fellow had a good voice, another fellow…” quote by James Joyce
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““―When you kick out for yourself, Stephen―as I daresay you will one of these days―rememer, whatever you do, to mix with gentlemen. When I was a young fellow I tell you I enjoyed myself. I mixed with fine decent fellows. Everyone of us could lo something. One fellow had a good voice, another fellow was a good actor, another could sing a good comic song, another was a good oarsman or a good racket player, another could tell a good story and so on. We kept the ball rolling anyhow and enjoyed ourselves and saw a bit of life and we were none the worse of it either. But we were all gentlemen, Stephen―at least I hope we were―and bloody good honest Irishmen too. That's the kind of fellows I want you to associate with, fellows of the right kidney. I'm talking to you as a friend, Stephen. I don't believe a son should be afraid of his father. No, I treat you as your grandfather treated me when I was a young chap. We were more like brothers than father and son. I'll never forget the first day he caught me smoking. I was standing at the end of the South Terrace one day with some maneens like myself and sure we thought we were grand fellows because we had pipes stuck in the corners of our mouths. Suddenly the governor passed. He didn't say a word, or stop even. But the next day, Sunday, we were out for a walk together and when we were coming home he took out his cigar case and said:―By the by, Simon, I didn't know you smoked, or something like that.―Of course I tried to carry it off as best I could.―If you want a good smoke, he said, try one of these cigars. An American captain made me a present of them last night in Queenstown.””

James Joyce

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The speaker advises Stephen to seek good company, value honesty, and embrace mentorship, using personal anecdotes about camaraderie and gentle guidance.

In simple terms: Seek good friends, be honest, learn from elders.

Key Takeaway

Choose supportive peers and respect mentors.

Themes

friendship mentorship honesty community growth

Mood

reflective nostalgic

Type

literary philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • young adulthood
  • career decisions
  • personal development
  • social networking

Key Concepts

Irish literature coming ofage social bonds

Questions to Reflect On

  • Who truly supports your growth?
  • How do you balance respect and independence?
A Different Perspective

Mentors may have hidden motives or expectations.

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