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Every time we make the decision to love someone, we open…

“Every time we make the decision to love someone, we open ourselves to great suffering, because those we most love cause us not only great joy but also great pain. The greatest pain comes from leaving. When the child leaves home, when the husband or wife leaves for a long period of time or for…” quote by Henri Nouwen
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““Every time we make the decision to love someone, we open ourselves to great suffering, because those we most love cause us not only great joy but also great pain. The greatest pain comes from leaving. When the child leaves home, when the husband or wife leaves for a long period of time or for good, when the beloved friend departs to another country or dies … the pain of the leaving can tear us apart. Still, if we want to avoid the suffering of leaving, we will never experience the joy of loving. And love is stronger than fear, life stronger than death, hope stronger than despair. We have to trust that the risk of loving is always worth taking.””

Henri Nouwen

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Loving involves risk of loss, but avoiding love prevents joy; love outweighs fear and pain.

In simple terms: Love brings joy and pain; risk is worth it.

Key Takeaway

Embrace love despite fear.

Themes

love risk suffering hope

Mood

hopeful thoughtful

Type

philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • Relationship building
  • grieving processes
  • support groups

Key Concepts

Existential risk emotional resilience

Questions to Reflect On

  • Are you willing to risk pain for love?
  • How can you balance fear and hope?
A Different Perspective

Love may lead to deep hurt.

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