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Besides,” continued Gottfried, “you’re coming now to the…

“Besides,” continued Gottfried, “you’re coming now to the time when the difference between a bourgeois and a cavalier begins to show. A bourgeois always gets less attentive the longer he knows a woman. A cavalier, always more attentive.” He made an extended gesture. “With all this you can become an…” quote by Erich Maria Remarque
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““Besides,” continued Gottfried, “you’re coming now to the time when the difference between a bourgeois and a cavalier begins to show. A bourgeois always gets less attentive the longer he knows a woman. A cavalier, always more attentive.” He made an extended gesture. “With all this you can become an absolutely staggering cavalier.” I laughed. “That is all fine, Gottfried,” said I. “But what happens when you get caught? There’s not much of a getaway, and pious people might easily consider it as desecration of a holy place.” “My dear boy,” replied Lenz, “do you see anybody here? Since the war people go to political meetings, not to church.” That was true. “But what about the parsons?” I asked.””

Erich Maria Remarque

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This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

The passage contrasts the superficial attentiveness of a bourgeois with the genuine, daring attentiveness of a cavalier, suggesting that true engagement requires risk and boldness, especially under societal pressures.

In simple terms: Bourgeois vs. cavalier attentiveness

Key Takeaway

Bold attentiveness transcends social class

Themes

class dynamics authenticity risk war impact social expectations

Mood

reflective ironic cautious

Type

dialogue philosophical observation character insight

When to use this quote

  • courtship in wartime
  • navigating social hierarchies
  • encountering religious scrutiny
  • strategic social interactions

Key Concepts

attention cavalier archetype bourgeois complacency political climate

Practical Applications

  • adopting a bold stance in relationships
  • leveraging risk to deepen connections

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does risk alter genuine attentiveness?
  • What social forces shape our expressions of care?
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