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“A second premise behind the attitude that there is nothing to be learned about love is the assumption that the problem of love is the problem of an object, not the problem of a faculty. People think that to love is simple, but that to find the right object to love—or to be loved by—is difficult…” quote by Erich Fromm
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““A second premise behind the attitude that there is nothing to be learned about love is the assumption that the problem of love is the problem of an object, not the problem of a faculty. People think that to love is simple, but that to find the right object to love—or to be loved by—is difficult. This attitude has several reasons rooted in the development of modern society. One reason is the great change which occurred in the twentieth century with respect to the choice of a “love object.””

Erich Fromm

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Love is a faculty to be developed, not just a matter of finding the right object; societal changes complicate this perception.

In simple terms: Love is a skill, not just a choice of partner.

Key Takeaway

Cultivate love as a personal capacity.

Themes

love psychology society relationships

Mood

reflective thoughtful

Type

philosophical psychological

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • marriage counseling
  • personal growth
  • therapy

Key Concepts

attachment theory self-development object relations

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you practice loving as a skill?
  • What societal norms shape your view of love?
A Different Perspective

It may overlook biological and cultural factors influencing attraction.

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