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So it went, a step at a time. And since we saw each other…

“So it went, a step at a time. And since we saw each other every night; since each increment of change was unspectacular in itself; since he made love very, very well; since I was soon crazy about him, not just physically, but especially so, it came about that I found myself – after the time span…” quote by Elizabeth McNeill
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““So it went, a step at a time. And since we saw each other every night; since each increment of change was unspectacular in itself; since he made love very, very well; since I was soon crazy about him, not just physically, but especially so, it came about that I found myself – after the time span of a mere two weeks – in a setup that would be judged, by the people I know, as pathological. It never occurred to me to call it pathological. I never called “it” anything. I told no one about it. That it was me who lived through this period seems, in retrospect, unthinkable. I dare only look back on those weeks as on an isolated phenomenon, now in the past; a segment of my life as unreal as a dream, lacking all implication.””

Elizabeth McNeill

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

A rapid, intense love leads to a brief, almost pathological experience that feels unreal and isolated, highlighting how intense emotions can distort perception.

In simple terms: Intense love felt like a short, unreal episode.

Key Takeaway

Recognize when emotions may be overwhelming.

Themes

love time change psychology subjectivity

Mood

melancholic introspective

Type

narrative psychological

When to use this quote

  • romantic involvement
  • personal crisis
  • self‑analysis

Key Concepts

relationship dynamics mental health

Questions to Reflect On

  • When does passion become unhealthy?
  • How to differentiate fleeting intensity from lasting change?
A Different Perspective

The claim may pathologize normal intense emotions.

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