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“But most days, if you’re aware enough to give yourself a choice, you can choose to look differently at this fat, dead-eyed, over-made-lady who just screamed at her little child in the checkout line — maybe she’s not usually like this; maybe she’s been up three straight nights holding the hand of…” quote by David Foster Wallace
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““But most days, if you’re aware enough to give yourself a choice, you can choose to look differently at this fat, dead-eyed, over-made-lady who just screamed at her little child in the checkout line — maybe she’s not usually like this; maybe she’s been up three straight nights holding the hand of her husband who’s dying of bone cancer, or maybe this very lady is the low-wage clerk at the Motor Vehicles Dept. who just yesterday helped your spouse resolve a nightmarish red-tape problem through some small act of bureaucratic kindness. Of course, none of this is likely, but it’s also not impossible — it just depends on what you want to consider. If you’re automatically sure that you know what reality is and who and what is really important — if you want to operate on your default-setting — then you, like me, will not consider possibilities that aren’t pointless and annoying. But if you’ve really learned how to think, how to pay attention, then you will know you have other options. It will actually be within your power to experience a crowded, loud, slow, consumer-hell-type situation as not only meaningful but sacred, on fire with the same force that lit the stars — compassion, love, the sub-surface unity of all things. Not that that mystical stuff’s necessarily true: The only thing that’s capital-T True is that you get to decide how you’re going to try to see it. You get to consciously decide what has meaning and what doesn’t. You get to decide what to worship…””

David Foster Wallace

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This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Choosing perspective transforms ordinary, stressful encounters into opportunities for compassion and meaning, revealing that meaning is a personal decision rather than an objective truth.

In simple terms: You can decide what matters in any situation.

Key Takeaway

Shift perception to find meaning.

Themes

perspective compassion meaning-making mindfulness choice

Mood

reflective empathetic thoughtful

Type

philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • customer service
  • family conflict
  • health crisis
  • bureaucratic interactions
  • daily irritations

Key Concepts

existentialism psychology ethical perception

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do you practice perspective shifts in real time?
  • What limits your ability to see compassion?
A Different Perspective

It may be hard to sustain this mindset under chronic stress or trauma.

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