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“There is no pain equal to that which two lovers can inflict on one another... It is when we begin to hurt those whom we love that the guilt with which we are born becomes intolerable, and since all those whom we love intensely and continuously grow part of us, and since we hate ourselves in them…” quote by Cyril Connolly
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“There is no pain equal to that which two lovers can inflict on one another... It is when we begin to hurt those whom we love that the guilt with which we are born becomes intolerable, and since all those whom we love intensely and continuously grow part of us, and since we hate ourselves in them, so we torture ourselves and them together.”

Cyril Connolly

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

When we harm those we love, we experience deep guilt because love intertwines their identity with ours, leading to mutual suffering.

In simple terms: Hurting loved ones creates shared pain and guilt.

Key Takeaway

Avoid harming loved ones to prevent shared suffering.

Themes

love guilt self‑destruction

Mood

melancholic introspective

Type

literary philosophical

When to use this quote

  • relationship conflicts
  • family disputes
  • personal introspection

Key Concepts

emotional interdependence psychological pain self‑hate

Questions to Reflect On

  • Why do we sometimes hurt those we love?
  • How can we break the cycle of mutual pain?
A Different Perspective

Guilt may be amplified by self‑hatred, making resolution harder.

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