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If love closes, the self contracts and hardens: the mind…

“If love closes, the self contracts and hardens: the mind having nothing else to occupy its attention and give it that change and renewal it requires, busies itself more and more with self-feeling, which takes on narrow and disgusting forms, like avarice, arrogance and fatuity.” quote by Charles Horton Cooley
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“If love closes, the self contracts and hardens: the mind having nothing else to occupy its attention and give it that change and renewal it requires, busies itself more and more with self-feeling, which takes on narrow and disgusting forms, like avarice, arrogance and fatuity.”

Charles Horton Cooley

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

When love wanes, people turn inward, becoming self‑absorbed and developing negative traits like greed and arrogance.

In simple terms: Loss of love leads to selfishness and bad behavior.

Key Takeaway

Cultivate love to prevent self‑centredness.

Themes

love self psychology social behavior negativity

Mood

reflective concerned critical

Type

sociological psychological

When to use this quote

  • relationships
  • mental health counseling
  • personal development
  • conflict resolution

Key Concepts

self‑absorption egoism emotional health

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does love influence your behavior?
  • What can replace love when it’s absent?
A Different Perspective

It simplifies complex social dynamics to a single cause.

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