Mark Goulston

One of the most important keys to getting through to anyone and then influencing them is to realize that inside everyone's mind,…

— Mark Goulston

The most influential people strive for genuine buy-in and commitment - they don't rely on compliance techniques that only secure short-term persuasion.

— Mark Goulston

When winning is everything and everyone does whatever they need to win and to not lose, including lying, you have a world…

— Mark Goulston

If fun puts a smile on your face, beauty and elegance put a smile in your heart and take your breath away.…

— Mark Goulston

It really takes something for someone to get up the nerve to share the impact you have had on them, and to…

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MIA stands for 'missing in action,' which is the way others can experience you when you're too busy multi-tasking, being pulled at…

— Mark Goulston

Presence is in the eye and ear and gut of the beholder. When you are totally present in a conversation or in…

— Mark Goulston

A leader who is confused or confusing causes too much anxiety, and a leader who is too controlling is revealing more insecurity…

— Mark Goulston

PTSD occurs following a trauma that was so awful that in retrospect you don't understand how you survived. What that causes is…

— Mark Goulston

The best way to learn to be present and develop presence is to have the experience of someone you respect and admire…

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One of the reasons it is so difficult to break a connection to something or someone you have imprinted on is that…

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You may have heard the saying, 'When you're in love, smoke gets in your eyes.' Well when you're talking, smoke gets in…

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The crux is this: you can't be sincerely empathic towards and angry at someone at the same moment. In other words, you…

— Mark Goulston

Over time, many CEOs realize that being able to quickly and effectively confront conflict in their company is a leadership opportunity because…

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If you're fortunate, you'll meet people over the course of your career who exceed your expectations in every way. When you work…

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God only knows we need a great role model as a leader who is more leader than they are male or female,…

— Mark Goulston

“But what happens if we look back for support and don’t get it? We become less confident about stepping into the unknown.…

— Mark Goulston

“identify the negative qualities that you find most bothersome in the people around you and start acting toward these people as though…

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Customers are your best teachers. Learning about your customer's beliefs, values, and priorities teaches you which selling points you should emphasize.

— Mark Goulston

Self-esteem should not be confused with self-confidence. Self-confidence is believing in your competence and your ability to do something, whereas self-esteem is…

— Mark Goulston

One of the best ways to see how critical being present is to effective leadership is to notice what being absent, distracted,…

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Terrorism thrives when the gap between the 'haves' and 'have nots' becomes so wide and when the 'have nots' reach the point…

— Mark Goulston

More often than not, CEOs are conflict-avoidant because their role is to define vision and strategy than it is to get into…

— Mark Goulston

Why do people who consider themselves good communicators often fail to actually hear each other? Often it's due to a mismatch of…

— Mark Goulston

Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if…

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People often say, 'I don't need recognition,' and the truth is they are right. We don't need it. But like healthy food…

— Mark Goulston

When you ask someone a question, you trigger an unconscious flashback of their having been put on the spot earlier in life…

— Mark Goulston

The measure of self-assurance is how deeply and sincerely interested you are in others; the measure of insecurity is how much you…

— Mark Goulston

Forget the empty platitudes; your star employee is not a 'godsend.' They are a person deserving of your not infrequent acknowledgment and…

— Mark Goulston

Few things detract more from your credibility and the respect of your colleagues and peers than being called on the carpet to…

— Mark Goulston

I have heard it said that the measure of a civilization is how it treats those who have hurt it. I think…

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There is something calming and emotionally restoring when you focus on gratitude for a known deed that helped you, instead of fear…

— Mark Goulston

Know what's important and what isn't. Have the wisdom to know the right thing to do, the integrity to do it, the…

— Mark Goulston

To many in the global community, American business - especially our financial institutions - are seen as a bunch of thieves, and…

— Mark Goulston

Given the choice between instant gratification and the lasting satisfaction of earning the esteem of someone you respect and admire, all but…

— Mark Goulston