“Feeling close and complete with someone else -- the emotional equivalent of finding a home” — Amir Levine Emotional Copy Share Image
“if you're with someone secure, they nurture you into a more secure stance.” — Amir Levine Cybersecurity Copy Share Image
“Avoidants are not exactly open books and tend to repress rather than express their emotions.” — Amir Levine Books Copy Share Image
“...being happy and fulfilled is probably one of the most attractive traits you can offer a partner.” — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“Instead of thinking how you can change yourself in order to please your partner, as so many relationship books advise, think: Can… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“Susan, who has an avoidant attachment style, ... sees need as a weakness and looks down on people who become dependent on… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“Whereas before, she saw every man that she met and liked (and she was picky) as her last chance to find happiness,… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“If you're avoidant, you connect with romantic partners but always maintain some mental distance and an escape route.” — Amir Levine Love Copy Share Image
“Whether plain or gorgeous, we've learned to appreciate [secure-type people] for what they really are -- the "supermates" of evolution -- and… — Amir Levine Biology Copy Share Image
“The trick is not to get hooked on the highs and lows and mistake an activated attachment system for passion or love.… — Amir Levine Highs and lows Copy Share Image
“The more attuned you are to your partner's needs at the early stages -- and he or she to yours -- the… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“Other studies have found that faced with a stressful life event ... avoidants' defenses are quick to break down and they then… — Amir Levine Life Copy Share Image
“It's important to remember that even with effective communication, some problems won't be solved immediately. What's vital is your partner's response--whether he… — Amir Levine Communication Copy Share Image
“When your partner feels s/he has a secure base to fall back on (and doesn't feel the need to work hard to… — Amir Levine Work hard Copy Share Image
“people with a secure attachment style are more likely than others to forgive their partner for wrongdoing. ...secure people just naturally dwell… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“If you're still in a relationship, remember that just because you can get along with anyone doesn't mean you have to. If… — Amir Levine Dysfunctional relationship Copy Share Image
“[Avoidants] might have sex only rarely -- or never -- with their partner, or fantasize about others while doing so. ... With… — Amir Levine Adventure Copy Share Image
“Studies have found that the same areas in the brain that light up in imaging scans when we break a leg are… — Amir Levine Break a leg Copy Share Image
“There are many charming, intelligent people out there who can make you happy, but there are also many who are not right… — Amir Levine Intelligent people Copy Share Image
“reexamine your recollections of past relationship experiences from a fresh new perspective. Viewing them through an attachment lens will allow you to… — Amir Levine Attachment Copy Share Image
“With every clash, the anxious person loses more ground: During bitter fights between anxious and avoidant partners, when there are no secure… — Amir Levine Anxiety Copy Share Image
“If you're anxious, when you start to feel something is bothering you in a relationship, you tend to quickly get flooded with… — Amir Levine Anxious Copy Share Image
“If you have an anxious attachment style, you tend to get attached very quickly, even just on the basis of physical attraction.… — Amir Levine Passionate kiss Copy Share Image
“Oxytocin, a hormone and neuropeptide ... plays a major role in attachment processes and serves several purposes: It causes women to go… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“If you are avoidant, the first step, therefore, is to acknowledge your need for space—whether emotional or physical—when things get too close,… — Amir Levine Alone Copy Share Image
“Anxious people may take a very long time to get over a bad attachment, and they don't get to decide how long… — Amir Levine Anxious Copy Share Image
“... mismatched attachment styles can lead to a great deal of unhappiness in marriage, even for people who love each other greatly.… — Amir Levine Love Copy Share Image
“It is very important that you be compassionate with yourself. The worse you feel about yourself, the more you'll want to go… — Amir Levine Bad relationship Copy Share Image
“Usually, if you address things that are bothering you from the get-go and receive a positive response, our whole demeaner will change.… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“our culture encourages you [with an anxious attachment style] to believe that many of your needs are illegitimate. But whether they are… — Amir Levine Happiness Copy Share Image
“Basically, secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving; anxious people crave intimacy, are often preoccupied with their… — Amir Levine Ability to love Copy Share Image
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![“[Avoidants] might have sex only rarely -- or never -- with their partner, or fantasize about others while doing so. ... With avoidants, fantasy is not part of a mutual adventure but rather a deactivating strategy to keep them isolated.” quote by Amir Levine](https://sms4smile.com/q/img-quotes/2e1/amir-levine-19091_adventure_avoidants-might-have-sex-only-rarely-or_1617384.jpg)
![“Oxytocin, a hormone and neuropeptide ... plays a major role in attachment processes and serves several purposes: It causes women to go into labor, strengthens attachment, and ... [increases] trust and cooperation. We get a boost of oxytocin in our brain during orgasm and even when we cuddle…” quote by Amir Levine](https://sms4smile.com/q/img-quotes/676/amir-levine-19091_quality-time_oxytocin-a-hormone-and-neuropeptide-play_849739.jpg)
![“our culture encourages you [with an anxious attachment style] to believe that many of your needs are illegitimate. But whether they are legitimate or not for someone else is beside the point. They are essential for your happiness, and that is what's important.” quote by Amir Levine](https://sms4smile.com/q/img-quotes/789/amir-levine-19091_happiness_our-culture-encourages-you-with-an-anxio_796547.jpg)
