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“Epictetus say that everything has two handles, one by which it can be borne and one which it cannot. If your brother sins against you, he says, don't take hold of it by the wrong he did you but by the fact that he's your brother. That's how it can be borne.” quote by Anne Tyler
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““Epictetus say that everything has two handles, one by which it can be borne and one which it cannot. If your brother sins against you, he says, don't take hold of it by the wrong he did you but by the fact that he's your brother. That's how it can be borne.””

Anne Tyler

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

We can choose how to respond to events, focusing on the relationship rather than the wrongdoing.

In simple terms: Choose to see the person, not the offense.

Key Takeaway

Respond with compassion, not resentment.

Themes

philosophy relationships resilience

Mood

reflective calm

Type

advice philosophical

When to use this quote

  • family conflict
  • workplace disputes
  • personal grievances

Key Concepts

Stoicism cognitive reframing

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you practice seeing the person behind the mistake?
  • What limits does compassion have?
A Different Perspective

May ignore personal hurt, making it hard to set boundaries.

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