Adult life Quote by Rubin Scott
““As a young man I started searching for my own identity by looking into family, friends and inside Myself. My mother always taught us to live free even when confined, meaning “never let anyone break you down physically or mentally.” Since my living environment was so heavily impacted with violence and illegal activity I found myself adapting to social norms that later in my adult life would negatively affect me. For example, certain physical reactions that were acceptable, as a child would give you a reputation on the street as tough guy, don’t mess with him. The same mentality later in life, as a man would label you as a predator of some sort and a woman abuser. It was hard to understand the true value of a man and all his worth and everything he is capable of achieving, when you’re surrounded by pimps, hustlers and con men that all may make more money than the men with trade jobs and have more of an appealing lifestyle for the short- term progress.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: Personal Narrative, Rubin Scott, 2023
Identity formation can be distorted by violent environments, leading to harmful self‑perceptions and social expectations.
In simple terms: Violent surroundings can warp self‑identity.
Seek healthy role models and redefine personal values.
Themes
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When to use this quote
- career counseling
- community support
- therapy
- education programs
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- What aspects of your past still influence your self‑view?
- How can you cultivate a new, positive identity?
Changing ingrained beliefs is challenging and may face resistance.