Quarrel Quote by Rowan Williams
““Two hermits lived together for many years without a quarrel. One said to the other, “Let’s have a quarrel with each other, as other men do.” The other answered, “I don’t know how a quarrel happens.” The first said, “Look here, I put a brick between us, and I say, ‘That’s mine.’ Then you say, ‘No, it’s mine.’ That is how you begin a quarrel.” So they put a brick between them and one of them said, “That’s mine.” The other said, “No, it’s mine.” He answered, “Yes, it’s yours. Take it away.” They were unable to argue with each other.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Cloud of Unknowing, author unknown, medieval mystic text
The story illustrates how trivial disputes arise from possessive claims over shared objects, and how letting go of ownership can dissolve conflict.
In simple terms: Fights start over claiming ownership; releasing claims ends them.
Key Takeaway
Release ownership to prevent arguments.
Themes
conflict
ownership
communication
Mood
thoughtful
calm
Type
parable
teaching
When to use this quote
- shared workspace
- family disputes
- roommates
- team projects
Key Concepts
possessiveness
attachment
mindfulness
Questions to Reflect On
- What possessions trigger your arguments?
- How can you practice non‑attachment in daily life?
A Different Perspective
If underlying issues remain, letting go may not resolve deeper resentment.
