Favor Quote by Robert E. Lee
“If a friend asks a favor, you should grant it if it is reasonable; if not, tell him plainly why you cannot: You will wrong him and wrong yourself by equivocation of any kind.”
About This Quote
Source Treat: Letters from a Confederate General, 1865
Grant reasonable favors to avoid harming relationships; refuse unreasonable ones with honesty to prevent mutual deceit.
In simple terms: Help when fair, be honest when not.
Key Takeaway
Be clear and fair in requests.
Themes
honesty
relationships
boundaries
Mood
thoughtful
pragmatic
Type
ethical
advice
When to use this quote
- friendship
- workplace
- family
- community
Key Concepts
ethics
reciprocity
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you decide what is reasonable?
- What are the costs of avoiding conflict?
A Different Perspective
People may feel guilty refusing, risking tension.
