Identity Quote by R.D. Laing
““Since the self, in maintaining its isolation and detachment does not commit itself to a creative relationship with the other and is preoccupied with the figures of phantasies, thought, memories, etc. (imagos), which cannot be directly observable by or directly expressed to others, anything (in a sense) is possible. Whatever failures or successes come the way of the false-self system, the self is able to remain uncommitted and undefined. In phantasy, the self can be anyone, anywhere, do anything, have everything. It is thus omnipotent and completely free - but only in phantasy. Once it commits itself to any real project it suffers the agonies of humiliation - not necessarily for any failure, but simply because it has to subject itself to necessity and contingency. It is omnipotent and free only in phantasy. The more this phantastic omnipotence and freedom are indulged, the more weak, helpless, and fettered it becomes in actuality. The illusion of omnipotence and freedom can be sustained only within the magic circle of its own shut-upness in phantasy. And in order that this attitude be not dissipated by the slightest intrusion of reality, phantasy and reality have to be kept apart.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Divided Self, 1960
The self’s escape into fantasy gives an illusion of unlimited power, but true freedom and growth require confronting reality, which brings vulnerability and responsibility.
In simple terms: Fantasy feels powerful; reality brings growth.
Embrace reality despite its challenges.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- therapy
- creative projects
- personal development
- relationship building
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How does reliance on fantasy hinder personal growth?
- What steps can you take to face reality courageously?
Fantasy can become a trap that limits real potential.