Feelings Quote by Quentin Crisp
“What matters is not whether you put your fork or knife together because you've finished your meal, or something like that. What matters is that you don't offend people, or hurt their feelings by mistake by saying the wrong thing or doing the wrong thing.”
About This Quote
Source Essay: The Importance of Sensitivity, 1995
It matters more to avoid hurting others' feelings than to worry about etiquette like how you hold utensils after a meal.
In simple terms: Being kind matters more than manners.
Key Takeaway
Prioritize empathy over trivial etiquette.
Themes
empathy
social interaction
communication
etiquette
personal responsibility
Mood
thoughtful
empathetic
practical
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- workplace conversations
- family gatherings
- public speaking
- online comments
- customer service interactions
Key Concepts
Emotional intelligence
social norms
interpersonal dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you ensure you’re respectful without over‑thinking manners?
- What small actions can prevent unintentional offense?
A Different Perspective
Focusing solely on etiquette can ignore deeper issues of respect.
