Found Quote by Oscar Wilde
“There is one thing infinitely more pathetic than to have lost the woman one is in love with, and that is to have won her and found out how shallow she is!”
About This Quote
Source Play: A Woman of No Importance, 1893
Losing a loved one feels terrible, but realizing they were shallow after winning them is even more painful.
In simple terms: Winning love can reveal disappointing shallow traits.
Key Takeaway
Beware of idealizing partners before truly knowing them.
Themes
love
disillusionment
self‑awareness
relationships
Mood
melancholic
reflective
Type
cautionary
philosophical
When to use this quote
- breakups
- new relationships
- self‑reflection
- dating
- marriage
Key Concepts
psychology
human nature
expectations
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you value love for its own sake or for the image it creates?
- How can you protect yourself from idealizing too early?
A Different Perspective
Even after winning love, emotional pain can persist if expectations are unrealistic.
![“Cecily. This is no time for wearing the shallow mask of manners. When I see a spade I call it a spade. Gwendolen. [Satirically.] I am glad to say that I have never seen a spade. It is obvious that our social spheres have been widely different.” quote by Oscar Wilde](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/1e7/oscar-wilde-16_different_cecily-this-is-no-time-for-wearing-the-s_1461245.jpg)
