First step Quote by Monique Truong
““Obey,' like 'worship,' is a strong word. Her mother and father had told her so, and she believed them. They gave her life, they told her, so that she could give them grandsons. She had been prepared to perform that task from the very beginning. When her body took the first step, her mother found for her a husband. A scholar-prince, the girl had imagined. In the days that followed her mother's announcement, the girl was reminded again and again that she must obey this man. He must be wise, the girl thought. She must not displease him. He must be sensitive, the girl thought. She must not leave him. He must be kind, the girl thought. From the soft mouth of the woman who gave her life, my mother received the words that would keep her, still and unmoving, underneath the Old Man. The words swam with her in the dark and kept her from reaching up with a knife and cutting his neck like that of a chicken. Her mother told her to swallow her anger, and she gulped it down until her belly became distended with it. Worse, her mother knew that it would.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Mother of All Things, Monique Truong, 2020
A woman is conditioned by family and cultural expectations to obey a husband, suppressing her anger and agency.
In simple terms: Societal pressure forces obedience and emotional repression.
Question inherited expectations and seek personal autonomy.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- marriage
- family dynamics
- personal freedom
- cultural tradition
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- What would you do if you could safely defy oppressive expectations?
- How can you support others in reclaiming agency?
Resistance may be dangerous and socially punished, limiting open rebellion.