North star Quote by Michael Wolff
““The president couldn’t stop talking. He was plaintive and self-pitying, and it was obvious to everyone that if he had a north star, it was just to be liked. He was ever uncomprehending about why everyone did not like him, or why it should be so difficult to get everyone to like him. He might be happy throughout the day as a parade of union steel workers or CEOs trooped into the White House, with the president praising his visitors and them praising him, but that good cheer would sour in the evening after several hours of cable television. Then he would get on the phone, and in unguarded ramblings to friends and others, conversations that would routinely last for thirty or forty minutes, and could go much longer, he would vent, largely at the media and his staff. In what was termed by some of the self-appointed Trump experts around him—and everyone was a Trump expert—he seemed intent on “poisoning the well,” in which he created a loop of suspicion, disgruntlement, and blame heaped on others. When the president got on the phone after dinner, it was often a rambling affair. In paranoid or sadistic fashion, he’d speculate on the flaws and weaknesses of each member of his staff. Bannon was disloyal (not to mention he always looks like shit). Priebus was weak (not to mention he was short—a midget). Kushner was a suck-up. Spicer was stupid (and looks terrible too). Conway was a crybaby. Jared and Ivanka should never have come to Washington. His callers, largely because they found his conversation””
About This Quote
Source Book: Fire and Fury by Michael Wolff, 2018
The president’s compulsive need for approval drives endless, self‑defeating communication, creating a toxic cycle of blame and paranoia.
In simple terms: He seeks approval, causing chaotic, self‑defeating talk.
Recognize the cost of approval‑seeking.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- executive decision‑making
- public speaking
- team dynamics
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How does seeking approval affect your decisions?
- What strategies counteract self‑defeating communication?
Approval seeking can erode effective leadership.