Big family Quote by Max Barry
““You come to work every day but you hardly get to know anyone. I don't even know the names of half the people I see in the elevators. They say the company is a big family, but I don't know them. And even the people I do, like you two, and Elizabeth, and Roger - do I really? I mean, I like you guys, but we only ever talk about work. When I'm out with friends, or at home, I never talk about work. The other day, I tried to explain to my sister why it's such a huge deal that Elizabeth ate Roger's donut, and she thought I was insane. And you know what, I agreed with her. At home I couldn't even think why it mattered. Because I'm a different person at home. When I leave this place at night, I can feel myself changing. Like shifting gears in my head. And you guys don't know that; you just know what I'm like here, which is terrible, because I think I'm better away from work. I don't even like who I am here. Is that just me? Or is everyone different when they come to work? If they are, then what are they really like? How can we ever know? All we know are the Work People.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: “The Last Days of New York” by Max Barry, 2006
People often present different personas at work versus home, leading to a sense of disconnection and mystery about true selves.
In simple terms: We act differently at work, making it hard to know real personalities.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and bridge the work‑home identity gap.
Themes
identity
workplace culture
authenticity
social dynamics
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- team building workshops
- ment‑sharing sessions
- cross‑departmental projects
- leadership coaching
- employee surveys
Key Concepts
role theory
self‑presentation
psychological distance
Questions to Reflect On
- How does your work persona differ from your personal self?
- What steps can foster authentic interaction at work?
A Different Perspective
People may fear vulnerability, limiting genuine connection.
