Child Quote by Jessica Lahey
““Parents, after all, are judged by their children’s accomplishments rather than their happiness, so when our children fail, we appropriate those failures as our own.””
About This Quote
Source Book: "The Gift of Failure" by Jessica Lahey, 2016
Parents are evaluated by their children's successes, not their own happiness, so they internalize children's failures as personal failures.
In simple terms: Parents are judged by kids' achievements, not their joy.
Key Takeaway
Recognize that children's outcomes don’t define you.
Themes
parenting
expectations
identity
Mood
reflective
concerned
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- family dynamics
- career pressure
- mental health
- self-compassion
Key Concepts
self-worth
social comparison
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you separate your self-worth from your children's outcomes?
- What practices help you maintain personal happiness regardless of kids' success?
A Different Perspective
Children's failures can cause undue self-blame.
