Community Quote by Jean Vanier
““In community, people let down barriers; appearances and masks disappear. But this is not easy. Many people have built up their personalities precisely by hiding their wounded hearts behind the barriers of independence and of the attitude, "I know, you don't". They are highly active and their activity is based on the need to assert, to succeed, to control, to do projects and to be recognized . . . A community comes about when people are no longer hiding from one another, no longer pretending or proving their value to another.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Community and its Discontents, 2008
True connection requires shedding defenses and revealing vulnerability, which is difficult for those accustomed to self‑reliance and status‑seeking.
In simple terms: Opening up builds real community.
Key Takeaway
Allow yourself to be seen.
Themes
vulnerability
community
authenticity
Mood
reflective
hopeful
Type
inspirational
philosophical
When to use this quote
- team building
- therapy groups
- friendship circles
- workplace collaboration
Key Concepts
psychology
social dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- What defenses do you keep up?
- How could openness improve your relationships?
A Different Perspective
People may fear loss of control or judgment when exposing their wounds.
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