Feeling sorry Quote by J.D. Salinger
““The thing is, most of the time when you're coming pretty close to doing it with a girl – a girl that isn't a prostitute or anything, I mean – she keeps telling you to stop. The trouble with me is, I stop. Most guys don't. I can't help it. You never know whether they really want you to stop, or whether they're just scared as hell, or whether they're just telling you to stop so that if you do go through with it, the blame'll be on you not them. Anyway, I keep stopping. The trouble is, I get to feeling sorry for them. I mean most girls are so dumb and all. After you neck them for a while, you can really watch them losing their brains. You take a girl when she really gets passionate, she just hasn't any brains. I don't know. They tell me to stop, so I stop. I always wish I hadn't, after I take them home, but I keep doing it anyway.””
About This Quote
The speaker rationalizes repeated sexual aggression, blaming victims and portraying women as unintelligent, while acknowledging his own compulsion to stop when told.
In simple terms: He blames women for his own misconduct.
Key Takeaway
Self‑justification of harmful behavior.
Themes
gender dynamics
power abuse
psychology
moral responsibility
Mood
angry
disgusted
critical
Type
confessional rant
misogynistic monologue
When to use this quote
- dating scenarios
- consent discussions
- sexual assault prevention training
Key Concepts
cognitive dissonance
victim blaming
Practical Applications
- educate on consent
- challenge misogynistic narratives
Questions to Reflect On
- Why do some individuals externalize blame for their actions?
- How can societies better address consent violations?
A Different Perspective
The narrative is deeply misogynistic and normalizes abuse; it cannot be justified by personal impulses.
