Becoming Quote by Gordon S. Wood
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“[John Adams and Tomas Jefferson] shared experience in 1775 - 1776 in bringing about the separation from Britain and their service in Europe cemented a friendship that in the end withstood the most serious political and religious differences that one could imagine, especially their differences over the French Revolution. It was probably Jefferson's obsession with politeness and civility that kept the relationship from becoming irreparably broken.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The American Revolution: A History, Gordon S. Wood, 2002
The collaboration of Adams and Jefferson survived deep political and religious divides because mutual respect and civility outweighed partisan conflict.
In simple terms: Respect and civility kept a friendship alive despite big differences.
Key Takeaway
Prioritize respectful dialogue in disagreements.
Themes
friendship
politics
civil discourse
historical collaboration
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
Type
historical
analytical
When to use this quote
- diplomatic negotiations
- political debates
- cross‑ideological partnerships
Key Concepts
Republicanism
federalism
personal virtue
Questions to Reflect On
- How can civility be maintained when core values clash?
- What limits does politeness have in resolving conflict?
A Different Perspective
Even with civility, fundamental disagreements can still strain relationships.
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