Desire Quote by Erich Fromm
““Frequently, and not only in the popular usage, sadomasochism is confounded with love. Masochistic phenomena, especially, are looked upon as expressions of love. An attitude of complete self-denial for the sake of another person and the surrender of one's own rights and claims to another person have been praised as examples of "great love". It seems that there is no better proof for "love" than sacrifice and the readiness to give oneself up for the sake of the beloved person. Actually, in these cases, "love" is essentially a masochistic yearning and rooted in the symbiotic need of the person involved.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Art of Loving, Erich Fromm, 1956
Love is often mistaken for self‑sacrifice, conflating masochism with genuine affection.
In simple terms: Love is confused with self‑denial.
Key Takeaway
Recognize healthy boundaries in love.
Themes
love
masochism
self‑sacrifice
psychology
Mood
reflective
critical
thoughtful
Type
philosophical
psychological
When to use this quote
- romantic relationships
- counseling
- personal growth
Key Concepts
attachment theory
dependency
symbiosis
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you differentiate love from self‑harm?
- What healthy forms of sacrifice exist?
A Different Perspective
Love without self‑destruction is possible.
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