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Civilized Quote by Elizabeth von Arnim

“These women accept their beatings with a simplicity worthy of all praise, and far from considering themselves insulted, admire the strength and energy of the man who can administer such eloquent rebukes. In Russia, not only may a man beat his wife, but it is laid down in the catechism and taught…” quote by Elizabeth von Arnim
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““These women accept their beatings with a simplicity worthy of all praise, and far from considering themselves insulted, admire the strength and energy of the man who can administer such eloquent rebukes. In Russia, not only may a man beat his wife, but it is laid down in the catechism and taught all boys at the time of confirmation as necessary at least once a week, whether she has done anything or not, for the sake of her general health and happiness." I thought I observed a tendency in the Man of Wrath rather to gloat over these castigations. "Pray, my dear man," I said, pointing with my whip, "look at that baby moon so innocently peeping at us over the edge of the mist just behind that silver birch; and don't talk so much about women and things you don't understand. What is the use of your bothering about fists and whips and muscles and all the dreadful things invented for the confusion of obstreperous wives? You know you are a civilised husband, and a civilised husband is a creature who has ceased to be a man. "And a civilised wife?" he asked, bringing his horse close up beside me and putting his arm round my waist, "has she ceased to be a woman?" "I should think so indeed,--she is a goddess, and can never be worshipped and adored enough.””

Elizabeth von Arnim

About This Quote

Source Novel: The Man of Wrath (fictional excerpt)

The passage satizes patriarchal violence, portraying women’s acceptance as praised while exposing absurd justifications for abuse.

In simple terms: Critique of normalized abuse in society

Key Takeaway

Question and challenge harmful cultural norms

Themes

gender violence power hypocrisy

Mood

critical ironic serious

Type

satire commentary

When to use this quote

  • feminist activism
  • educational workshops
  • legal reform
  • support groups for survivors

Key Concepts

patriarchal oppression social conditioning masculine identity

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does humor affect the perception of serious issues?
  • What alternative narratives could empower victims?
A Different Perspective

The satire may be misread as endorsing the behavior rather than condemning it

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