““If you were valued primarily for your ability to excel, you may form an assumption that being average means you won’t be loved or valued. If you don’t perform according to a particular standard, you are a failure. You may have a belief that you must be the best at whatever I do. You may believe that it is wrong for you to disappoint others. You might have a hidden assumption that if someone you care about feels let down by you and you are unable to fix it, you are a bad or defective person.””
