Good husband Quote by Daniel James Brown
““the Illinois Gazette, published some handy “Rules for Wives,” among them these: A good wife will always receive her husband with smiles, leaving nothing undone to render home agreeable and gratefully reciprocate kindness and attention. She will study to discover means to gratify his inclinations in regard to food and cooking; in the management of her family; in her dress, manner, and deportment. She will in everything reasonably comply with his wishes, and as far as possible, anticipate them. These were rules that Sarah and Jay and most of their contemporaries took for granted. But there were rules for husbands, too. A good husband will always regard his wife as his equal, treat her with kindness, respect, and attention and never address her with an air of authority as if she were, as some husbands appear to regard their wives, mere housekeepers. Keseberg seems to have been one of those husbands who paid attention only to the first set of rules. Increasingly,””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Lost City of Z, Daniel James Brown, 2009
The passage contrasts traditional gender expectations for wives and husbands, highlighting how some men only follow the one‑sided rules that demand wives’ subservience while neglecting reciprocal respect.
In simple terms: Wives were expected to please; husbands should treat wives as equals.
Key Takeaway
Demand mutual respect, not one‑sided obedience.
Themes
gender roles
equality
family dynamics
historical norms
Mood
reflective
critical
thoughtful
Type
advice
historical
social commentary
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- historical research
- gender studies
- relationship workshops
Key Concepts
Patriarchy
reciprocity
social expectations
Questions to Reflect On
- How can modern couples balance tradition with equality?
- What steps ensure both partners feel respected?
A Different Perspective
The quote reflects a historical perspective and may not represent all cultural contexts.
