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“The sudden and uncalled for coldness with which you treated me just before I left last night, both surprised and deeply hurt me - surprised because I could not have believed that such sullen and inflexible obstinacy could exist in the breast of any girl in whose heart love had found place; and…” quote by Charles Dickens
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““The sudden and uncalled for coldness with which you treated me just before I left last night, both surprised and deeply hurt me - surprised because I could not have believed that such sullen and inflexible obstinacy could exist in the breast of any girl in whose heart love had found place; and hurt me, because I feel for you more than I have ever professed and feel a slight from you more than I care to tell. My object in writing to you is this: if hasty temper produces this strange behaviour, acknowledge it when I give you the opportunity - not once or twice, but again and again. If a feeling of you know not what - a capricious restlessness of you can't tell what, and a desire to tease, you don't know why, give rise to it - overcome it; it will never make you more amiable, I more fond or either of us, more happy. Depend upon it, whatever be the cause of your unkindness - whatever gives rise to these wayward fancies - that what you do not take the trouble to conceal from a Lover's eyes, will be frequently acted before those of a husband's. I know as well, as if I were by your side at this moment, that your present impulse on reading this letter is one of anger - pride perhaps, or to use a word more current with your sex - 'spirit'. My dear girl, I have not the most remote intention of awakening any such feeling, and I implore you, not to entertain it for an instant… I have written these few lines in haste, but not anger… If you knew but half the anxiety with which I watched your recent illness, the joy with which I hailed your recovery, and the eagerness with which I would promote your happiness, you could more readily understand the extent of the pain so easily inflicted, but so difficult to be forgotten. - Excerpts from a letter by Charles Dickens to his fiancee of three weeks, 1835””

Charles Dickens

About This Quote

Source Letter to Fiancée, 1835

The writer urges his lover to recognize and control sudden, irrational coldness, suggesting honest communication to avoid repeated hurt.

In simple terms: Control sudden coldness, communicate honestly.

Key Takeaway

Address emotional outbursts early.

Themes

relationships communication emotional intelligence

Mood

reflective concerned

Type

personal intimate

When to use this quote

  • romantic partnership
  • friendship
  • family discussions

Key Concepts

self‑awareness conflict resolution

Questions to Reflect On

  • What triggers your sudden coldness?
  • How can you express feelings without hurting?
A Different Perspective

The partner may not recognize the pattern without gentle prompting.

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