Change Quote by Betty Smith
““If she never had any lovers, she kicks herself around when the change comes, thinking of all the fun she could have had, didn’t have, and now can’t have. If she had a lot of lovers, she argues herself into believing that she did wrong and she’s sorry now. She carries on that way because she knows that soon all her woman-ness will be lost…lost. And if she makes believe being with a man was never any good in the first place, she can get comfort out of her change.””
About This Quote
A woman’s past romantic experiences shape her self‑judgment and fear of losing femininity, leading her to rationalize her current state as a source of comfort.
In simple terms: Past relationships affect self‑view and fear of loss.
Key Takeaway
Acknowledge how past choices influence present feelings.
Themes
identity
relationships
self‑judgment
fear
comfort
Mood
introspective
empathetic
Type
narrative
psychological
When to use this quote
- dating
- self‑reflection
- therapy
- friendship
Key Concepts
psychology
gender dynamics
memory
Questions to Reflect On
- What fears drive your self‑judgment?
- Can you find comfort without denial?
A Different Perspective
Rationalizing loss may prevent genuine emotional growth.
