Child Quote by Barbara Nicholson
““When we spoil something, we deny it the conditions it requires. . . . The real spoiling of children is not in the indulging of demands or the giving of gifts, but in the ignoring of their genuine needs. —Gordon Neufeld, PhD, and Gabor Maté, MD, Hold On to Your Kids””
About This Quote
Source Book: Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté, 2000
True care means meeting genuine needs, not just giving material gifts or indulging demands.
In simple terms: Children need real needs met, not just treats.
Key Takeaway
Prioritize authentic needs over superficial appeasement.
Themes
parenting
needs
authenticity
Mood
empathetic
concerned
Type
advice
psychological
When to use this quote
- family life
- education
- childcare
- policy making
Key Concepts
psychology
developmental theory
Questions to Reflect On
- What genuine need is being overlooked?
- How can you balance wants and needs?
A Different Perspective
Focusing only on gifts can ignore deeper issues.
