We are all born rude. No infant has ever appeared yet with the grace to understand how inconsiderate it is to disturb… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
When people start hurling insults at you, you know their minds are closed and there's no point in debating. You disengage yourself… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
We already know that anonymous letters are despicable. In etiquette, as well as in law, hiring a hit man to do the… — Judith Martin Anonymous Copy Share Image
When politeness is used to show up other people, it is reclassified as rudeness. Thus it is technically impossible to be too… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
the obligation to express gratitude deepens with procrastination. The longer you wait, the more effusive must be the thanks. — Judith Martin Expressing gratitude Copy Share Image
People read informality as, 'Do whatever you feel like,' and whatever you feel like might be disastrous. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“But sometimes one hears an Etiquette-Buster’s confession that rings true: “You make me feel guilty.” I’m not going to bother, this argument… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
People who put slipcovers, doilies, plastic protectors, and cellophane on everything good that they own rarely live to see an occasion so… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“Miss Manners remembers who should be introduced to whom, but then she also remembers the difference between “who” and “whom.” The formula… — Judith Martin Manners Copy Share Image
It is a widespread and firm belief among guests that their departure is always a matter of distress to their hosts, and… — Judith Martin Belief Copy Share Image
Nowadays, we never allow ourselves the convenience of being temporarily unavailable, even to strangers. With telephone and beeper, people subject themselves to… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
'Honesty' in social life is often used as a cover for rudeness. But there is quite a difference between being candid in… — Judith Martin Candid Copy Share Image
One should not be assigned one's identity in society by the job slot one happens to fill. If we truly believe in… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Should you happen to notice that another person is extremely tall or overweight, eats too much or declines convivial drinks, has red… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“new method of taxing people with their faults has not only retained but magnified its own faults. It tells only one side… — Judith Martin Taxes Copy Share Image
In its natural state, the child tells the literal truth because it is too naive to think of anything else. Blurting out… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Part of the skill of saying no is to shut up afterward and not babble on, offering material for an argument. — Judith Martin Argument Copy Share Image
For email, the old postcard rule applies. Nobody else is supposed to read your postcards, but you'd be a fool if you… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
[after the death of a loved one] It is when there is nothing more to be done that the reality of the… — Judith Martin Death Copy Share Image
Dishonesty is not the only alternative to honesty. There is also the highly underrated virtue of shutting up. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
We're now seeing email that people thought they had deleted showing up as evidence in court. You can't erase email. As that… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
We are born charming fresh and spontaneous and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Question- Should I loan a small amount of money to a friend? Answer- If you are sure that you can, if necessary,… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Whamming someone smaller than oneself in order to teach that person civilized behavior is not within Miss Manners' concept of propriety, much… — Judith Martin Behavior Copy Share Image
Appearing to pay attention when someone is speaking is one of the cornerstones of real social interaction. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Charming villains have always had a decided social advantage over well-meaning people who chew with their mouths open. — Judith Martin Advantage Copy Share Image
“The correct British peer would no more dream of using his own title than he would of using his own umbrella, although… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
Learn graceful ways of saying no and of pointing out that this pressure to do something is not in line with most… — Judith Martin Diplomat Copy Share Image
Life is full of wonderful passions that come and go over the years, but the only one that will never let you… — Judith Martin Comes and goes Copy Share Image
Etiquette does not render you defenseless. If it did, even I wouldn't subscribe to it. But rudeness in retaliation for rudeness just… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“As dear Erasmus said in De Civilitate, “It is safe to admit nothing that might embarrass one if repeated.” Gossip” — Judith Martin Gossip Copy Share Image
Fairness does not consist so much of everybody's doing the same thing, but of everybody's being willing to do something that others… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“Lady” is not used before the lady’s first name unless she is the daughter of a duke, marquess or earl; those who… — Judith Martin Children Copy Share Image
A general rule of etiquette is that one apologizes for the unfortunate occurrence, but the unthinkable is unmentionable. — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
“Oh, I’m terribly sorry, but I can’t.” “I’d love to, but I’m afraid it’s impossible.” “Unfortunately, I can’t, but I hope you… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
If written directions alone would suffice, libraries wouldn't need to have the rest of the universities attached. — Judith Martin Education Copy Share Image
It is one of Miss Manners's great discoveries that one needn't contradict others in order to set them straight. — Judith Martin Discovery Copy Share Image
Meanwhile, the empty forms of social behavior survive inappropriately in business situations. We all know that when a business sends its customers… — Judith Martin Behavior Copy Share Image
Yes, etiquette is hypocritical. Yes, it does inhibit children - if you're lucky. But the idea that it's elitist and irrelevant is… — Judith Martin Children Copy Share Image
The simple idea that everyone needs a reasonable amount of challenging work in his or her life, and also a personal life,… — Judith Martin Copy Share Image
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