Harriet Lerner Quotes

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• Keep in mind that the tendency to be judgmental - toward yourself or another person - is a good barometer of how anxious or stressed…
• It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while.
• Being in touch with our bodies, or more accurately, being our bodies, is how we know what is true. Harriet
• It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want…
• Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.
• We commonly confuse closeness with sameness and view intimacy as the merging of two separate I's into one worldview.
• Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another.
• We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer…
• An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence…
• If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.
• Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on…
• We'll always be disappointed if we believe that we can plan for a peak experience and make it happen. True joy can't be anticipated or…
• We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.
• As long as we can feel hope, there is hope.
• Telling a true story about personal experience is not just a matter of being oneself, or even or finding oneself. It is also a matter…
• We need to hear the sound of our voice for what we think and need.
• Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.
• Differences don’t just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.
• Throughout evolutionary history, anxiety and fear have helped every species to be wary and to survive. Fear can signal us to act, or, alternatively, to…
• Fear is a message - sometimes helpful, sometimes not - but often conveying critical information about our beliefs, our needs, and our relationship to the…

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