The difference between passion and addiction is that between a divine spark and a flame that incinerates. — Gabor Mate Addiction Copy Share Image
“It is children's desire to be good for us that warrants our trust, not their ability to perform to our expectations.” — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Misogyny is a son's outwardly projected rage on a mother who was unable to protect him.” — Gabor Maté Misogyny Copy Share Image
“The fact is, we in this society are often quite removed from our own emotional reality.” — Gabor Maté Emotional Copy Share Image
“I can do this with half my brain tied behind my back,” I used to joke. No joke, that. It’s precisely how… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Shame is the deepest of the “negative emotions,” a feeling we will do almost anything to avoid. Unfortunately, our abiding fear of… — Gabor Maté Fear Copy Share Image
“Creatures of attachment are creatures of instinct and impulse. It doesn't feel good or right or proper to seek favor in the… — Gabor Maté Attachment Copy Share Image
“External motivators for behavior such as rewards and punishments may destroy the precious internal motivation to be good, making leverage by such… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Attachment, we have noted, does its work invisibly. People who out of pure instinct have created a good attachment relationship with their… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“The power to parent will be transferred to whomever the child depends on, whether or not that person is truly dependable, appropriate,… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Disease is not simply a manifestation of some physical process unique to the individual, but it reflects their particular lives, environment and… — Gabor Maté Disease Copy Share Image
“If a mother has eight children, there are eight mothers. This is not simply because of the fact that the mother was… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Compassionate curiosity about the self does not mean liking everything we find out about ourselves, only that we look at ourselves with… — Gabor Maté Compassion Copy Share Image
“Attacking family members is all too typical of peer-oriented children, leaving parents and siblings wounded. In most cases, the attacks will not… — Gabor Maté Aggression Copy Share Image
“Another powerful dynamic perpetuates addiction despite the abundance of disastrous consequences: the addict sees no other possible existence for himself. His outlook… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“One cannot get much more vulnerable than to expose oneself psychologically. To share oneself with another and then be misunderstood or rejected… — Gabor Maté Loved ones Copy Share Image
“Reactions can be gratifyingly mature at one time but distressingly immature at another. If some deeply unconscious anxiety is triggered, a person… — Gabor Maté Anger Copy Share Image
“Peer-oriented children live in a universe of severely limited and superficial attachments. The quest for sameness being the least vulnerable way of… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The very fact that something is important to us can make our children feel less like doing it. The more we pressure… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The core belief in having to be strong enough, characteristic of many people who develop chronic illness, is a defence. The child… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
A hurt is at the center of all addictive behaviors. . . . The wound may not be as deep and the… — Gabor Mate Copy Share Image
“Intuitively we all know that it is better to feel than to not feel. Our emotions are not a luxury but an… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“attachment is the first priority of living things. It is only when there is some release from this preoccupation that maturation can… — Gabor Maté Bearing fruit Copy Share Image
“Like addiction itself, anxiety will always find a target, but exists independently of its targets. Only when we become aware of it… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“To expect an addict to give up her drug is like asking the average person to imagine living without all her social… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The culture generated by peer-orientation is sterile in the strict sense of that word: it is unable to reproduce itself or to… — Gabor Maté Culture Copy Share Image
“Parenting, in short, is a dance of the generations. Whatever affected one generation but has not been fully resolved will be passed… — Gabor Maté Family history Copy Share Image
“Despite the best efforts of many physicians, Mary died in Vancouver Hospital eight years after her diagnosis, succumbing to the complications of… — Gabor Maté Little Sisters Copy Share Image
“In Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom reports that Morrie Schwartz, his former professor terminally ill with ALS, “was intent on proving that… — Gabor Maté Death Copy Share Image
“Many of us live, if not alone, then in emotionally inadequate relationships that do not recognize or honour our deepest needs. Isolation… — Gabor Maté Loneliness Copy Share Image
“What we call the personality is often a jumble of genuine traits and adopted coping styles that do not reflect our true… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Couples choose each other with an unerring instinct for finding the very person who will exactly match their own level of unconscious… — Gabor Maté Couples Copy Share Image
“The most important finding of research into a genetic role for alcoholism is that there is no such thing as a gene… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Strong convictions do not necessarily signal a powerful sense of self: very often quite the opposite. Intensely held beliefs may be no… — Gabor Maté Faith Copy Share Image
“Those whom we dismiss as “junkies” are not creatures from a different world, only men and women mired at the extreme end… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“When we focus narrowly on what we should be doing, we become blind to our attachment relationship with our children and its… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Selye discovered that the biology of stress predominantly affected three types of tissues or organs in the body: in the hormonal system,… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Dr. Cai Song is an internationally known researcher at the University of British Columbia and co-author of a recent textbook, Fundamentals of… — Gabor Maté Autoimmune disease Copy Share Image
“Not every story has a happy ending [...], but the discoveries of science, the teachings of the heart and the revelations of… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Interactions with other human beings — in particular, emotional interactions — affect our biological functioning in myriad and subtle ways almost every… — Gabor Maté Every moment Copy Share Image
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