“The contents of the unconscious remain unchanged and timeless. It is only as these contents become conscious that change can begin.” — Alice Miller Change Copy Share Image
The victimization of children is nowhere forbidden; what is forbidden is to write about it. — Alice Miller Child abuse Copy Share Image
All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
That probably greatest of narcissistic wounds -- not to have been loved just as one truly was -- cannot heal without the… — Alice Miller Grief Copy Share Image
Society chooses to disregard the mistreatment of children, judging it to be altogether normal because it is so commonplace. — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the… — Alice Miller Child Copy Share Image
What is addiction, really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom of distress. It is a language that tells us about… — Alice Miller Addiction Copy Share Image
Anyone who has ever been a mother or father and is at all honest knows from experience how difficult it can be… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Child abuse is still sanctioned — indeed, held in high regard — in our society as long as it is defined as… — Alice Miller Abuse Copy Share Image
Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and… — Alice Miller Childhood Copy Share Image
The free expression of resentment against one's parents represents a great opportunity. It provides access to one's true self, reactivates numbed feelings,… — Alice Miller Access Copy Share Image
The truth about childhood, as many of us have had to endure it, is inconceivable, scandalous, painful. Not uncommonly, it is monstrous.… — Alice Miller Childhood Copy Share Image
“The answer is that we can never do the right thing as long as we are out to please someone else. We… — Alice Miller Child Copy Share Image
Regression to the stage of early infancy is not a suitable method in and of itself. Such a regression can only be… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were… — Alice Miller Character Copy Share Image
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually… — Alice Miller Body Copy Share Image
“Today, as adults, we know that our efforts were exploited, that this was not love in the true sense of the word.… — Alice Miller Childhood trauma Copy Share Image
“Did I not risk incurring the severest of penalties if I insisted on breaking that taboo? But my fear also helped me… — Alice Miller Fear Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the… — Alice Miller Adults Copy Share Image
The abused child goes on living within those who have survived such torture, a torture that ended with total repression. They live… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Relationships based on masklike communication of this kind cannot change. They remain what they have always been: instances of mis-communication. A genuine… — Alice Miller Communication Copy Share Image
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
It was not the beautiful or pleasant feelings that gave me new insight, but the ones against which I fought most strongly:… — Alice Miller Beautiful Copy Share Image
The more we idealize the past and refuse to acknowledge our childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
If a mother respects both herself and her child from his very first day onward, she will never need to teach him… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
Only the mourning for what one has missed at the crucial time can lead to real healing. — Alice Miller Grief Copy Share Image
We are still barely conscious of how harmful it is to treat children in a degrading manner. Treating them with respect and… — Alice Miller Child Copy Share Image
The father receives his power from God (and from his own father). The teacher finds the soil already prepared for obedience, and… — Alice Miller Father Copy Share Image
Child abuse damages a person for life and that damage is in no way diminished by the ignorance of the perpetrator. It… — Alice Miller Abuse Copy Share Image
Genuine feelings are never the product of conscious effort. They are quite simply there, and they are there for a very good… — Alice Miller Authenticity Copy Share Image
The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is precisely because a child's feelings are so strong that they cannot be repressed without serious consequences. The stronger a prisoner… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“Enforced love is not love. All it can lead to is a "sham" relationship without any genuine communication, a pretense of warmth… — Alice Miller Affection Copy Share Image
Today I should not be identified with any kind of regressive therapy. Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“If We do not do everything we can to understand the roots of this hatred, even the most elaborate strategic agreements will… — Alice Miller Hatred Copy Share Image
someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
I sincerely believe that we not only have the right to know what is good and what is evil; we have the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“I've spoken of the patient Peter who was obsessively forced to make conquests with women, to seduce and then to abandon them,… — Alice Miller Abandonment Copy Share Image
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
