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Diplomat Quote by André Aciman

“Did I want him to act? Or would I prefer a lifetime of longing provided we both kept this little Ping-Pong game going: not knowing, not-not-knowing, not-not-not-knowing? Just be quiet, say nothing, and if you can't say "yes," don't say "no," say "later." Is this why people say "maybe" when they…” quote by André Aciman
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““Did I want him to act? Or would I prefer a lifetime of longing provided we both kept this little Ping-Pong game going: not knowing, not-not-knowing, not-not-not-knowing? Just be quiet, say nothing, and if you can't say "yes," don't say "no," say "later." Is this why people say "maybe" when they mean "yes," but hope you'll think it's "no" when all they really mean is, Please, just ask me once more, and once more after that? ””

André Aciman

About This Quote

Indecision and avoidance create endless longing; honest communication is needed to break the cycle.

In simple terms: Avoidance fuels longing; speak honestly.

Key Takeaway

Speak truth to end uncertainty.

Themes

communication indecision longing

Mood

anxious hopeful

Type

reflective inspirational

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • conflict resolution
  • personal boundaries

Key Concepts

psychology relationships

Questions to Reflect On

  • What does 'later' mean for you?
  • How can you express true feelings?
A Different Perspective

Fear of rejection may silence truth.

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