The best definition I've heard is that guilt is about what you've done, shame is about who you are. If something's out of my control, I don't feel shame about it, because what could I have done? If you're guilty,… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share
“I carry love wrapped in pain. That is my treasure and soon it will be yours.” — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share Image
“God famously doesn't afflict Job because of anything Job has done, but because he wants to prove a point to Satan. Twenty years later, I am sympathetic with my first assessment; to me, in spite of the soft radiant beauty of many of its passages, the Bible still has a mechanical quality, a refusal to brook complexity that feels brutal… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share
When you're writing a story, you're creating something of an artificial ending. — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share Image
Partly, I'm worried that no one is saying anything because they are afraid of being seen as politically correct. — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share Image
“...loading your brain with subliminal messages… How loathsome to turn a sadistic murder into entertainment [in the newspaper] -- and yet how hard not to read about it. What dark comedy to realize that you are scanning for descriptions of torture as you disapprove. Which of course only makes it more entertaining. "But naturally I was hoping they'd report something… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share
“The place Joanne is building inside [herself] has rooms for all of this. Not just rooms. Beautiful ones. For Karl and Jerry and Karen and Nate in his cowboy hat and the hot-tub guy and movie directors and old-lady healers and people trying to love their asses and people who think they're stupid for it. In these rooms, each thing… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share
“Valiantly, he tried to bring his soul to life in the small thing through which it had to live, and it was crushed, again… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share Image
The best definition I've heard is that guilt is about what you've done, shame is about who you are. If something's out of my control, I don't feel shame about it, because what could I have done? If you're guilty, you can at least try to atone for it or make it better or not do it again. If it's… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share
When my first book came out, it was very disorienting. My health went south. I didn't know how to relate to people. I thought, "Now I have this way to be in the world that's going to be wonderful. It'll be like driving a great car, really streamlined." But it actually was difficult because, if you have a public persona,… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share
When he held her that way, she felt so happy that it disturbed her. After he left, it would take her hours to fall asleep, and then when she woke up she would feel another onrush of agitated happiness, which was a lot like panic. She wished she could grab the happiness and mash it into a ball and hoard… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share
“But life can give a lot. If you can’t see inside the heart no matter how you look, then why not look? Why not… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share Image
Sexuality is a place where people are very vulnerable and can be experiencing and embodying very raw forces that they don't really understand and… — Mary Gaitskill Copy Share Image
