Whenever reality reinforces a child's fantasied dangers, the child will have more difficulty in overcoming them...So, while parents may not regard a spanking as a physical attack or an assault on a child's body, the child may regard it as… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
We find that even the parents who justify spanking to themselves are defensive and embarrassed about it…I suspect that deep inthe memory of every parent are the feelings that had attended his own childhood spankings, the feelings of humiliation, of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
A method of child-rearing is not--or should not be--a whim, a fashion or a shibboleth. It should derive from an understanding of the developing… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
We must remember when we speak of the "negativism" of the toddler that this is also the child who is intoxicated with the discoveries… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
Whenever reality reinforces a child's fantasied dangers, the child will have more difficulty in overcoming them...So, while parents may not regard a spanking as… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
Our survival as a human community may depend as much upon our nurture of love in infancy and childhood as upon the protection of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
It no longer makes sense to speak of "feeding problems" or "sleep problems" or "negative behavior" is if they were distinct categories, but to… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
The experience of a sense of guilt for wrong-doing is necessary for the development of self-control. The guilt feelings will laterserve as a warning… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
It seems to me that we have to draw the line in sibling rivalry whenever rivalry goes out of bounds into destructive behavior of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
There must be a solemn and terrible aloneness that comes over the child as he takes those first independent steps. All this is lost… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
We find that the child who does not yet have language at his command, the child under two and a half, will be able… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
Parents who want a fresh point of view on their furniture are advised to drop down on all fours and accompany the nine or… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
An older child, one who possesses a conscience, will be troubled with self-reproaches and feelings of shame for his naughtiness, even if he is… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
The child begins life as a pleasure-seeking animal; his infantile personality is organized around his own appetites and his own body. In the course… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
The parent who loves his child dearly but asks for nothing in return might qualify as a saint, but he will not qualify as… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
If we can find a principle to guide us in the handling of the child between nine and eighteen months, we can see that… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
It can be demonstrated that the child's contact with the real world is strengthened by his periodic excursions into fantasy. It becomes easier to… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share
