One helpful thing to keep in mind as a retort-stopper is that you won't "win," you won't change anyone's mind, you won't change any votes, you won't make the atmosphere in the room any better, YOU won't feel any better. — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
I actually recommend as little actual counting as possible in a life partnership. But, when there's a sense of injustice brewing between you, some counting is inevitable, and so my advice is to count using as broad a scope as possible. It's not just hours worked or chores done, either, and it's not even just about the household - it's… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share
There has been, for some reason (or more likely an unfortunate accumulation of reasons) a trend over the past several decades for parents to do the work of parenting in the isolation of their own homes - and not only that, this trend has overlapped with the other trend of much deeper parent involvement in raising kids. That you also… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share
It takes awareness that it's not only not a bad thing to let others do things their own way, it is in fact an… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
The sudden death of a partner while expecting a child is so universally understood as awful that I don't think anyone with any other… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
I do crosswords when I have time to kill somewhere, and am 100 percent successful on filling in the spots I get stuck on… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
Unfortunately, I think the expectation is that birthday girls don't pay. — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
All of us assign different values to things, and not all of those values are going to line up with others'. — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
Don't freight your answers with any notions of what you're "supposed" to do, and just see where your feelings point you. It can feel… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
There's nothing wrong with being happy somewhere, even if it's the little pond you grew up in, as long as you are in fact… — Carolyn Hax Copy Share Image
